POST SEPARATION - Let's talk numbers

Whether you are considering leaving, or you're already on your path to recovery and rebuilding. Post-separation abuse is and should remain a critical concern, as separation can often escalate the risk of violence rather than mitigate it. Studies indicate that 90% of coercive control victims continue to experience abuse after leaving their partners, with tactics ranging from harassment and legal battles to emotional manipulation.  domesticshelters.org

Alarmingly, the period leading up to and up to two years post-separation is identified as the most dangerous for women exiting abusive relationships. lukesplace.ca

Children are also profoundly affected in these situations. In cases of intimate partner violence (IPV), 60% of couples have children living in the household, exposing them to potential harm. PubMed Central

Furthermore, incidents involving child homicides reveal that 61.1% had antecedents related to IPV, such as separation, divorce, or child custody disputes. PubMed Central

To safeguard against post-separation abuse, consider the following measures:

• Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate limits firmly and minimize contact with the abuser. Utilize tools like blocking phone numbers and social media profiles to prevent unwanted interactions. 

• Seek Legal Protection: Explore legal avenues such as obtaining protection orders or pursuing legal action to address harassment or threats. Work with Law Enforcement and reach out for Free Legal Aid. If your budget allows, consulting with a reputable family law firm experienced in high-conflict cases can provide valuable guidance.   

• Document Incidents: Maintain detailed records of abusive behaviors or communications, including screenshots, emails, and texts. This documentation can be crucial if legal action becomes necessary.  

Remember, you are not alone. Check out our resources page for local support organizations, including free legal help in most covered areas. The National Domestic Violence Hotline also offers confidential support 24/7 and can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) - sadly I cannot recommend the NDVH as a "first stop" for assistance, as one must beware of lengthly on-hold timeframes. thehotline.org

 © Kaitlyn Jorgensen