Welcome!

I'm Kaitlyn; mother, survivor, advocate, founder, creator and big dreamer behind the Proactive Protective Mom™ Network. Welcome to our community. May you find strength, and peace here.

I'm a third generation survivor, and child subject of a Hague Convention Case.

I grew up as a child of divorce and the subject of an international Hague Convention case. From an early age, I saw my mother endure unimaginable challenges as she tried to shield us from domestic violence. In my eyes, she was a victim, navigating a system that often failed her. Vowing that my life would look different. I was determined to avoid those pitfalls and make better choices.

But life doesn’t always follow the plans we make for ourselves. One day, I woke up to the crushing realization that I was in the very situation I’d worked so hard to avoid. To survive—and to be the mother my newborn needed—I had to find the strength to escape.

Today, I look back on that journey with gratitude.

Escaping, however, was just the beginning. What I didn’t anticipate was the storm that followed. The Family Court system presented its own set of challenges, exposing me and my child to a new type of hardship—one that left me questioning everything.

Passionate about creating systematic change.

Over the years, I’ve learned to navigate these trials and have found not just freedom, but purpose. Today, I use my experiences to help other women reclaim their lives and protect their children. I’ve stood alongside countless survivors, working together to overcome obstacles and find hope.

From surviving, to advocating, I’ve turned my journey into a mission to help mothers navigate their own path to safety and stability.

My journey has led me to work with legislators, domestic violence advocates, police departments, attorneys, and charitable organizations. Together, we are working to create meaningful change within a system that often feels broken. It’s not an easy fight, but it’s one worth continuing—for our children, for ourselves, and for the future we want to build.

I created the Proactive Protective Mom™ Network to provide digital access to the tools, resources, and community I wish I had during my journey, helping mothers navigate their path forward with clarity, knowledge, resources and support.

I've structured this platform to provide a safe and honest space for survivors and those supporting them. Whether you’re taking your first steps toward freedom, advocating for someone in need, or working to close systemic loopholes, I’m here to offer resources, experienced insights, guidance and support.

Here, you’ll find practical tools and hard truths. I believe in tackling the issues head-on, without sugarcoating the realities survivors face. But within these truths, there is also strength, hope, and a roadmap forward.

"A strong woman looks a challenge dead in the eye and gives it a wink!"

— Gina Carey

I'm all about

I’m all about giving you the tools, strategies, and support you need to take charge of your journey through post-separation challenges.

I'm not about

I’m not about offering legal advice—I’m not a lawyer, nor licensed by the Family Court —but I am here to share resources and insights to help you move forward.

WE are in this together

Find Support. Navigate

change.

Reclaim Your Strength.

A LITTLE NOTE ON WHAT I DO

While I am not a lawyer and cannot provide legal advice, the resources and insights shared here are designed to educate and inform. From time to time, I sprinkle in a little good humor—because who are we if we can’t laugh at ourselves?

On these pages, you won’t find fluffy language or fairy-tale safe spaces. We dive into hard truths, and I tell it like it is. If an occasional “f-this” offends you, this may not be the resource for you. But if you’re seeking no-nonsense, straightforward information packed with knowledge, tools, and resources, then you’ve come to the right place. My work is rooted in decades of real-life experience, research, multi faceted collaborations, and a deep commitment to changing the narrative for women and children survivors navigating the complexities of post-separation abuse and intimate partner violence.

together, we navigate the challenges and take steps toward change

You are not alone

I know how overwhelming this journey can feel, but I also know the resilience you bring to it. My goal is to provide you with the tools, strategies, and support you need to navigate this chapter and advocate for safety and change. Together, we can help you take meaningful steps forward, focusing on what matters most in this moment; proactively protecting yourself and your children.

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